The Importance of and Approaches to Different Opinions and Viewpoints

Source: Stanford Law School (Photo by LiPo Ching)

It’s not uncommon for us to hear ideas and viewpoints that we disagree with. From conversations about navigating a work task to discussing social or political issues, disagreements can become complicated and intense. We may find someone’s strategy futile, or their perspective controversial. However, the reason behind disagreements is that we can all see things differently, and there often isn’t a distinct right or wrong.

So how can we go about it?

Communication is key. Instead of immediately shutting down the idea you are opposed to, address it critically, but kindly. There’s a saying that you have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Well, it’s good to contribute by talking, but listening is a must! Consider the point, and if you disagree, you need an alternative/solution in mind. It’s not about outweighing the other. If performing a task, remember that you’re working together, not against each other. If discussing a social issue, a different perspective doesn’t instantly make someone a bad person. The status quo could have some overlooked flaws, and something that works for us might not work as well for others. But in the end, try to remember that we're all seeking the greater good, and most likely, the goal of whoever you’re disagreeing with, is not to offend you.

What do you mean by “it’s not about outweighing the other”?

It’s not about the amount of valid arguments, other factors or subjective importance might shift the balance. Points don’t cancel each other out. Instead, combine ideas for a balanced result and focus on the most significant aspects, regardless of agreement.

Rather than looking for all the negative points that you would like to refute, try searching for some common ground. Common ground can show similar goals, even if the paths taken are different. And where ideas differ, they can be discussed and even combined! When multiple people are involved, it’s important that everyone contributes. This means everyone can bring in their own ideas, while being open to refinement. In the end, a conversation and completed task should be a combination of ideas and contributions from all ends.

But how is it productive if I don’t change someone’s mind?

No one is perfect. Changing someone’s mind for the sake of our productivity is not the goal. Rather, we can strive to understand and to be understood. If everyone thought, acted, believed, and did the same things, the world would not function. Everyone has something to offer, and alternative ideas and external feedback are significant avenues for discovering areas of improvement.

I see, I understand. But someone I’m dealing with doesn’t…

It’s frustrating when others won’t consider your point of view. However, remember to do your part to remain civil no matter what. The ideas you grew up with, whether from home, school, or internet surfing, have shaped your thinking. It’s the same with others. And sometimes, people cling hard to their own ideas. Try to empathize to see why they might be short-sighted when it comes to contrasting ideas. You might wish to communicate your thoughts or even personal experiences to improve each other’s understanding and connection.

Why is this important?

Humanity is diverse. Our perspectives are a key symbol of our diversity, and should be reflected in collaborative work/activities and social exchanges. Work and general interactions with other people are a regular part of daily life. Unfortunately, it can be difficult, but you have the potential to make it easier, more enjoyable, and productive – both for yourself and for your peers! You can hold onto your view, or adopt a new one, but what matters is that you communicate and contribute productively and civilly, understanding each other and getting the conversation and job done better together.